Tuesday, April 11, 2006


This is a conversation I had with a friend not so long ago.

Friend: Hey, I'm having a dinner thing tonight around six.
Me: Thanks for calling.
Friend: Of course, I don't actually expect you to come but I thought I'd tell you anyway.
Me: Very funny.

That is a very small example of some of the conversations I've had in the two and a half years I've been in Japan. I fully expect to turn up to a party one day and have everyone turn around and ask me what I'm doing there, even though I was invited. This is why I'm called the Hermit, as I've mentioned before.

But jokes aside, I think it's a question of priorities. I gave up a highly paid job to have more time to write, so if I have to make a choice between a social event and writing, it's not really a choice.

What's at the top of your list? I'm thinking about selfish 'do it for yourself' things, so you can't say your family. That's a given. I'm talking things aside from that, that you do just for you, like reading, watching t.v., knitting, writing, dancing...the list goes on. Have you ever thought about where your focus is and whether it needs to change? Or has it always been apparent to you that your priorities are exactly what they should be?

And if you're a writer, would you be willing to give up all the other extraneous things to have more time to write?


Cynthia E. Bagley said...


1) health... I have to make sure that I eat right, sleep, take pills, see doctors, and exercise. This health stuff takes a lot of time... but if I want to survive it is top priority.

2) Read ;-)

3) Write

4) Feed my husband, watch T.V.

5)Watch Finches.

Notice... there is nothing here about parties. LOL

Nalini Singh said...

Cynthia - maybe we should found Introverts Anonymous ;) Though in my defense, I did attend a social event this weekend - a cherry blossom viewing party! Maybe I'll blog about it tomorrow.

Milady Insanity said...

Well, I do have school at the top of my priorities, but I think I can honestly say that writing is in my top five.

Cynthia E. Bagley said...

Yea.. introverts anonymous LOL... we could meet online ;-)

Nalini Singh said...

Hi Milady - I get that. When I was at University, that was at the top of my list. Hard not to put it there when you're paying cash to study. :)

Cynthia - LOL!

Emma Sinclair said...

Sign me up for Introverts Anonymous please!

I put just about everything behind my writing. Which is why, unfortunatly, I have weeks like this when there's so much I *have* to do that it'll be a miracle if I have any time left to write.

Milady Insanity said...


I'm practically a card-carrying of Introverts Anonymous.

Nalini Singh said...

Maybe we should design a secret handshake so we can recognize each other wherever we go *g*

Milady Insanity said...

Nah, we don't need one.

Just a dignified nod will do.